Here are the most important principles for improving your life:

Giving as a prerequisite for abundance

Giving always accompanies the possibility of receiving, because human relationships function according to a dynamic of reciprocity.

Thus, since relationships are a state of continuous exchange with others, ceasing to express openness and altruism is tantamount to preparing for conflict and loneliness.

This is why “giving” is so essential: it promotes the continuity of this exchange and puts us in the most favourable conditions to receive.

The more we give, the more we receive. And I’m not talking about the famous (and smoky) “law of attraction”.

I am talking about nurturing the cooperation that has built the foundations of human civilisations since the dawn of time.

To improve this area of your life, you can make the following decision: every time you enter into a relationship with someone, give them something. This gift does not have to be material.

The most valuable gifts are often immaterial, such as affection, attention, compliments, recognition, encouragement, giving your time, etc.

Cultivate detachment

It is important to first want what we have, to be content with it.

With detachment and letting go, if we want to acquire anything, we can first give up our attachment to it.

This seems paradoxical: we combine the intention to obtain what we desire with the detachment to lose it.

This is because we are always attached to what things mean to us.

Thus, detachment lightens the consciousness and nourishes freedom. We can get everything, we can lose everything.

It helps us to detach ourselves and to see that happiness lies mainly in ourselves.

Finding your path and your life goals

Everyone can find their own path and goals in life. Everyone has at least one unique talent and a personal way to express it.

Each person always has abilities that allow him or her to do certain things better than others. But for each talent, there are also unique needs.

And when these needs match the creative expression of your talent, that is what creates the spark that gives meaning to your life. So a fundamental goal is to discover who we really are.

It is also to express our talent as often as possible, when we have found it, and to direct our expression to serve others as well (and first).

Free yourself from unwanted thoughts that make you suffer

Many people suffer in silence, which is why I make the release of unwanted thoughts the first principle of personal development.

Indeed, these people are struggling with thoughts that make them suffer, thoughts that keep coming back and that deal with subjects that can be very unpleasant and sometimes even disturbing.

Needless to say, such an experience is enough to sow doubt and make one question oneself, for the wrong reasons…

It is not surprising that these contents, in our mind, can be a source of suffering, small and large.

And these thoughts can become obsessive as we fight them and they end up filling our daily life with negative emotions.

In this context, it is difficult to dedicate oneself to personal development.

However, it is possible to understand the process by which these thoughts keep coming back to plague our lives, and to turn back and allow them to free our minds.

This results in less anxiety, less suffering, and a better state of being.

If you are one of those people who suffer silently from such thoughts, I invite you to read this detailed article that will explain how they work and how to free yourself from them.

Our beliefs shape our self-esteem

What we think about ourselves becomes absolutely true for ourselves, even if it is absolutely false!

As a result, each of us has a responsibility for what we experience, the best and the worst.

Since we have control over our thoughts and our thoughts construct our life experiences and emotions, we can change the way we think and speak to create new, more constructive experiences.

For example, you can say to yourself, “Everyone can always help me,” rather than “Others are there to take advantage of me.”

Each of these beliefs will generate very different experiences and emotions. And what we believe becomes true for ourselves…

We all have a core value

We all possess, equally, an equal intrinsic value that no one can take away from us. Unfortunately, we rarely believe in this core value…

For example, the person who is convinced that no one can appreciate him or her will experience more rejection.

The goal is therefore to let go of destructive beliefs and to see how absolutely lovable we are, which will help us to look around us with kindness.

With such a view of life, you will find that people who already like you will like you more and you will express your love more easily to others.

Putting love (in the broadest sense) at the basis of our actions

It is often difficult to put love at the centre of our lives and actions. We have no time, we are too busy, too stressed…

Yet, love and kindness towards ourselves and others would make our lives much easier. For example, if we try to control others, we waste our energy.

To apply this principle, we must first accept, that is, we can engage with people and circumstances as they present themselves to us. This openness is a form of love.

Another important dimension of this ‘love’ is responsibility. It means not blaming anyone for what happens to us.

Since all problems contain solutions and opportunities, this responsibility helps us to transform each situation positively.

We tend to reproduce the emotional environment we experienced when we were young

Our childhood influences help us to know ourselves. They are neither good nor bad.

We tend to treat ourselves as our parents did and we often recreate the kinds of relationships we had with our parents.

We criticise ourselves if our parents criticised us; we keep our courage up if our parents encouraged us.

To clarify this pattern in your life, think about your relationship with your boss, at work, or in your relationship with your partner, for example.

If the result of this test is negative, do not blame your parents. They did their best and could not teach you what they did not know. Be compassionate with your parents and ask them about their childhood instead.

In this way, you will better understand their beliefs – even if they are eventually destructive – and you will learn to free yourself from certain fears or rigid thoughts.

The greatest power we have is the power of the present moment

All the experiences in our lives stem from the moments we have experienced through our past thoughts and attitudes. Those moments are gone.

What is important now is to choose what we think, do and say in the present, especially through letting go and mindfulness.

This ‘power’ comes from the fact that our present helps to shape the events we will experience tomorrow, next week, next month, and so on. So, are the thoughts you are having right now negative or positive?

Are they helping to shape a future of satisfaction and well-being?

Even if we have held destructive thoughts for a long time, the past has no bearing on our lives. What matters is the present and its potential for positive change!

The reality we face is our thoughts, and we can change our thoughts…

Whatever problems and difficulties we face in our lives are only the external effects of our thoughts and inner life.

For example, the self-criticism that leads to low self-esteem is only a negative thought about ourselves.

When you say to yourself “I am worthless”, this thought produces a cascade of consequences, including negative emotions such as sadness and anger.

Therefore, if you avoid this kind of thinking, you cut off the destructive consequences that usually follow.

In other words, if you change your thoughts for the better, your emotions will happily follow in the same direction.